Let’s talk about the best sex toys to buy your girlfriend (or just the girl you’ve been having fun with)…
Some guys tend to see sex toys in a negative light. It’s like they think sex toys are going to replace their dicks and they’ll remain celibate for the rest of their days. Well, dudes, if a sex toy can replace you, then you probably need to work on your sex game (but that’s a story for another day).
I don’t think any girl has ever worried that a blow-up sex doll or an AutoBlow is going to replace her. Can an AutoBlow look up at you seductively while it sucks you? Can a blow-up doll get on top and send you sexy selfies while you’re at work? Probs not (at least not yet, anyway).
I don’t know if that did anything to help you get over your fear of sex toys, but as they would say to boys in America, “put your big boys pants on and get over it.” No, seriously, your girl will thank you and you’ll stop having to work as hard in bed to get your partner off.
Now, I don’t know your current situation. Maybe you’re looking for a toy to spice things up since you and your boo have been having lazy sex in sweat pants all spring and it’s getting kind of old. Maybe your girl is quarantined with the fam in Minnesota and you want to send her a surprise. Maybe you’re single and lonely AF, so you want to make sure when life goes back to normal and you can fornicate again, you’re going to knock it out of the park.
Whatever it is, here are some toys that would be great for you to buy with your girl and use together (or, some she can use alone when you guys are apart, too—I promise it’ll make her more excited to see you, it won’t make her not need you anymore). Here are the best sex toys to buy your girlfriend:
1. If you’re into a lil public play:
Wearable Clit Vibrator, 10 Speeds, $24.99
On one hand, you probably shouldn’t be going to a restaurant right now. On the other hand, if you’re going to anyways, this might be an opportune time to experiment with some public play? Most likely there will be less people around, and chances are you and your partner could use some—er—socializing.
Have you ever seen the scene in that movie The Ugly Truth where Katherine Heigl wears vibrating panties to a work dinner and has an orgasm at the table? Yeah, this will be kind of like that, but better (and less likely to earn you a talk with HR). Best Vibe offers an option with 10 different speeds, plus a mechanism that clips inside of the wearer’s panties so that there aren’t any slippery situations.
2. If your babe doesn’t usually like vibrators:
I’ve written a full review of VUSH’s The Empress toy here, and it’s still one of my favorite toys to this day. If, like me, your girl isn’t typically into vibrators, she might like this. Instead of a traditional “buzzing” sensation, it’s more of a sucking/pulsing sensation. And, unlike other similar toys, this one is small enough that you could totally use it during penetrative sex and not just foreplay (or solo play). It also has eight settings and is waterproof!
You can use my code GIOV for 20% off The Empress! BUY IT HERE
3. If you want to try anal, but your boo is hesitant:
Luxury Jewelry Design Stainless Steel Butt Plug Set, $13.95
There are a lot of common mistakes that straight men when it comes to anal sex. Aside from the obvious need for lube, you also have to remember that the butthole is not built to stretch out to accommodate a baby at any point in its life—and probably not to fit your you-know-what either. So, if you’re trying to warm your girl up to the idea of butt stuff, you have to warm her booty up too.
Pretty butt plugs like this always seem like a good way to make butt stuff fun (and aesthetic) IMO. Also a small anal vibe or dildo would be a good thing to work with before trying to get you (and your dongle) involved. Lastly, even if you don’t specifically buy something for her butt, using a vibrator on her clitoris is also a good thing to try to distract her from what you’re doing to her booty.
4. If you want to blow her mind:
LuLu 11 Upgraded Personal Wand Massager with Memory, $36.95
Talk to any guy, and they’ll say that their girlfriend/partner/playmate/whatever is OBSESSED with their magic wand vibe. Weirdly, none of my girlfriends (nor myself) choose a magic wand vibe as our favorite sex toy, but maybe I just don’t hang with that kind of crew? I actually just don’t like super intense vibrations, but a lot of women do! In fact, a study by the New York Times found that a magic wand massager was “the only toy…that could consistently bring [their testers] to an intense climax.” They also noted that, “Academic research studies have found that prescribing [this type of toy] is one of the most effective therapies for women who struggle w/ chronic anorgasmia.”
Magic wand vibes are ideal for a girl who really likes intense vibrations and perhaps has trouble orgasming (you will be most likely using the toy on her clitoris, FYI). Just make sure to be in touch with your partner about how intense she wants the vibrations, and when to apply the pressure and get rid of it (she might get sensitive down there post-o).
BUY IT HERE – You can use my code ASHLEY for 10% off
5. If you’re long distance, or you want a tighter fit during sex:
We-Vibe Chorus App and Remote Control Couple’s Vibrator
Are you tired of Facetime-ing with shitty connection and hushed dirty talk so your roommate doesn’t hear you from the other room? WeVibe is your go-to toy destination for long-distance loving.
Their products are all designed to be used with their bluetooth-enabled app so that you and your partner can “control” each other’s toys from afar (although they work just as great together). They even have an in-app video chat platform to be used with the toys.
The Chorus is their most classic toy, and when you’re together it’s designed to be worn by your partner during PIV sex. This obviously works better for some couples vs. others depending on your bodies. If you already have trouble fitting inside your partner, this probably won’t work well for you. If you would like a tighter fit though, it could be just the toy you need to satisfy your needs and also get your partner off with some clitoral vibrations. Or, something to make you feel more connected to your partner while she climaxes from afar.
